Friday, April 28, 2017

How I Lost 30lbs without Willpower, Phase III

It’s week 3! I would love to hear from you about how things have been going, what successes, disappointments or setbacks you have had.  I hope you are feeling pumped and not discouraged.  In case it is the latter though, I wanted to point out to you the success that you have already had. 

Remember we said that in order to be healthier in our eating habits and lose weight, we needed to do the following things:
  1. Portion Control
  2. Eating more veggies (and fruits)
  3. Eating more “Whole Foods" - as in unprocessed.
  4. Eating less junk
  5. Exercise 
I bet by tracking your food for the last two weeks, you have made better decisions, even if you have not written a thing down.  Just by setting the intention, you are going to have some success.  Combine that with our assignment last week to eat your veggies first, and I bet you have moved even more “bad” foods out of your life, so you are hitting #2 and #3, and possibly #4!  Great Job!!

This week we are moving on to Phase III.  At the end of this post, there are links to Phase I and II in case you want a refresher or are just starting, and want to catch up.  Sorry folks this is a long one because we are starting to move into the nitty gritty action steps.  I hope you find the info enlightening and useful, not just for this, but for any other changes you want to make in your life.

Phase III

First let’s talk about our habits. Habits are our default response to life.  They

Wednesday, April 26, 2017

5 Tips on How to Stop Arguing and Start Communicating with your Child/Tween/Teen

Tired of arguing with your child/tween/teen?  Want to turn an adversarial relationship with your child around and have an actual conversation?  Here are some things that you can do immediately to improve communication with your child.
Communicating without yelling

1. Listen.

Now you are probably thinking that you do listen, and this is about the lamest advice ever, but I would wager that you really don't listen.  Most people don't really listen.  They listen to reply.

Next conversation with someone (anyone), observe yourself.  I'll bet you a mimosa, while the person

Friday, April 21, 2017

How I Lost 30 pounds Without Willpower: Phase II

Healthy Lifetstyle

Quick Review of Last Week:

Last week we worked on awareness and the assignment was to become more aware of what you eat and why you are eating it.  We wrote down what, how much, why are you eating it (no judgment, just an observation), and finally were you hungry?  If you want a full refresher, please click on the link:

Phase II

Losing weight permanently means changing your life style.  This is no easy task.  Food is every where.  Not only do we need it to survive, but we celebrate life with food (or Mimosas 😉 ).  We use food to assuage are feelings of guilt, grief, stress, happiness, boredom, and all other range of emotions. On top of that, sweets and carbs hit the pleasure center in our brains, so we crave the very stuff we aren’t "supposed" to have.  You are undergoing a very daunting task indeed. This is why willpower is not the best tool on which to depend.  Not to worry. You can do this. How? Read on.

Friday, April 14, 2017

How I Lost 30lbs without Willpower - Phase I

Phase 1

Weight Loss
I’ve debated writing about this, because most people who know me now think I am naturally thin, and have been blessed with a great metabolism.  So anytime the subject of weight loss comes up, they roll their eyes at me and say, “but you’re so skinny,” and tune me out.  But alas, I do not come from a family of thin people, except my Grandmother, but that is because she only consumed Scotch (another story for another time).  Despite my trepidation, I decided to write about it anyway, because the one good thing about writing is that I can’t see an eye roll, so roll away, and maybe one or two things might actually help someone out there.  So here goes…..

So like anything worth having in life, and only you can decide what is worth having, and what is not, there is a little bit of good news and a little bad news.  

The good news…. this can be done without depending on your willpower to get you through. Let me clarify, there is some willpower involved, but not on the Herculean level most diets require.  This is not a diet.  This is a mindset change.

Monday, April 10, 2017

How to Change Your Child’s Behavior Without Yelling

positive parenting

I was talking to some other moms about how tired we get of telling our kids to do the same things every day.  It got me thinking about when I worked in change management in my former company, and what makes change management successful in an organization.  Organizations are made up of people right? And children are little people, so it stands to reason that the same principles should work on them.  

One theory I think would work here is Appreciative Inquiry (AI).  AI was introduced by David Cooperrider and his associates in the mid-eighties.  The appreciative assumes that in every organization (or person) there is something that works. The inquiry part is asking the question of “How” or “What” makes it work in that circumstance or instance? 

Friday, April 7, 2017

Why I Don't Tell My Daughter She's Pretty

Self-esteem, raising girls, raising boys

My daughter is pretty. She has hair the color of sun, and her eyes are as blue as the sea. And you know what? I try not to ever tell her that she's pretty because….Who cares??!! She won some sort of cuteness lottery. Her cuteness isn't something she worked for, strived for, gave blood sweat and tears for, so why be proud of something that is essentially just luck, and secondly could be lost in a moment.  

Monday, April 3, 2017

Summer Reading: Books that both Boys & Girls Will Love (ages 6-10)

Summer Reading Books that both Boys and Girls Will Love

 (ages 6-10)  

We like to read together every night, so finding books that appeal to both of their interests given their age, gender, and well, just being different people, has been challenging.  One child is a girl, one is a boy, and there are two years separating them.  One is logical and likes the adventure or humor.  The other is more feeling and relationship centered.  She likes adventure, but not over the dynamic of the relationships.  So to find books they both stay interested, and doesn't make me want to stab myself in the eye with a fork as I read it to them has been challenging.  I mean I love some Magic Treehouse but I was so done by the third book.  Not only did we all enjoy these books, but I found a lot of them on the clearance shelves of my local Half Price Book Store, so probably a safe bet you can find them at your used book store or definitely at your library.  

Here is a list that they makes us all happy in no particular order: